| Location | Thamesmead, Erith |
| Age | 73 years |
| Date of Birth | 14/04/1931 |
| Date of Death | 24/01/2005 |
| Visitors | 6,264 since 05/01/2007 |
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My grandad died on the 24th January 2005 of cancer!
what can i say about my grandad? he was an amazing man, a family man. along with my nan he raised 8
children 5 girls and 3 boys one of which was badly handicapped mentally and physically ( my unk who
i have also done a page for) he was a hard worker while his children were small, always made sure
the family had what they needed and that never stopped until the day he passed. As i got older i saw
my grandad as a person not just a figure and realized how marvolous he really was.. everyone seemed
to look up to him and he had alot of respect for and from ppl. he also loved his jokes.. makes me
smile just to think of him standing in the kitchen with his newspaper, he would tell us all a joke
which wasnt even very funny but he would laugh for ages and get ready to tell the next person who
walked through the door. He was rally easy to get along with no matter what your age, he had friends
of all different ages, male and female and when you spoke to him you would feel as though you had
known him for years. If you ever had a problem no matter how big or small he would always be there
to help you out. Even when i fell pregnant at 16, although i could tell he was so disappointed he
put his arm around me and let me know he was here for me. i looked upon him as a father... not a
grandfather... as did my children. they would often shout out dad as we was out shopping, the looks
we would get from ppl was amusing.
cyprus was a love spot for my grandad he and my nan would go every year.. he made so many friends
that even restruant owners from there would sent a xmas card to him every year.
i could carry on writting all day but no amount of words could explain how amazing he was.
then while on holiday in 2004 he became ill.. coming home early he went to the doctors and was told
he had intigestion.... after this going on for 5-6 months a new doctor sent my grandad for
tests..... CANCER came the result! That word scares alot of ppl... my grandad was one of them. he
became weak so fast but doctors told us they could operate on it and remove it. xmas came and that
was the first time i saw this proud man actully cry as his granddaughter (me) had to drill a hole in
the wall to hang up a santa figure for my uncle as my grandad was too weak to do it! that broke my
heart.
after xmas he started to go down hill fast... he couldnt eat... couldnt drink, we was to worried
that my mother and i went to see his doctor and begged him to do something. he suggested having him
put either in hospital or a hospice where he can be put on drips for fluid and food, because unless
he built himself up he couldnt have the op as he was too weak. we agreed to put him into our local
hospice as there he would get 1 on 1 care whereas a hospial was shared care.
when we told him he asked us not to put him there saying " when you go in those places you never
come out alive" we told him not to be silly and that they was going to help him get better.
after a few days of him being in the hospice he still didnt have any drips up and now struggled to
get out of bed.... we spoke to a doctor who was looking after him... nothing could have prepared me
for what i heard next... that thursday afternoon me and my mum was told there was nothing they could
do for him... my grandad was going to die!! that walk home went by in a haze as me and my mum just
cryed.
we got back to my nans and i had to sit and tell my nan and my aunts that the man in our lifes was
going to die and theres was nothing we could do.
we decided that we wasnt going to let him die in there like he told us he would, but we would bring
him home to be with his family. doctors asked us to wait until the monday before we took him home as
they wanted to get his mdeication on the right dose before he left... we agreed.
sunday evening i spoke to my mum on the phone and told her i was going to get the bus early in the
morning to see my grandad and keep him company till my nan and aunt got up there later in the day to
collect him (as he didnt like to be alone).
monday morning came and my mum called just as i was leaving to take my kids to school and go get the
bus... she told me my nan and aunt was going up early if i wasnt to go with them instead of getting
the bus... after i put my kids into school at 9am i went to my nans instead of getting the bus... my
mum was there as well as 1 of my aunts... we sat waiting for my other aunt to turn up as she was
driving us up there... then at 10:13 the phone rang... my aunt answered and passed the phone to my
nan telling her it was the hospice calling.. we thought they was letting us know that he was ready
to go..... my nan took the phone... seconds later screams filled the room.... my grandad had gone.
words cannot describe how our world fell apart at that moment... not only did he die in a place we
put him in... but he died alone.
i live my life now on if only's... coz if only i had got that bus... i would have been with him when
he went... he wouldnt have been alone.
people say time heels pain.... well on the 24th of this month it will be 2 years that he passed..
and i can say the pain inside is still as raw as that day.... time makes it easier to live with but
the pain never goes away.
heaven has alot to answer for.... so they can have an angel in a million... they took away 1 of
earths greatest heros!!!
4TH SEPTEMBER 2009
GOOD MORNING SWEET ANGEL............
~♥~ Our Guardian Angels will speak to us
in many different ways ~♥~
~♥~ They'll whisper joy from a bird's song
or wind through a majestic pine ~♥~
~♥~ Or laugh amid the rolling clouds
in a joyous thunder clap ~♥~
~♥~ Or whisper love through a turtle dove
or from a puppy's joyous yap ~♥~
~♥~ So listen closely to every sound
than might come your way ~♥~
~♥~ It could be your angel saying,
"Have a Wonderful Day." ~♥~
~By Shannon L. Story~
♥
WITH LOVE FROM JUDE. X
♥
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
In The Light.
A shadow of joy flickered, it is me.
I told you I wouldn't leave.
My spirit is with you.
My memories, my thoughts are embedded deep in your heart.
I still love you.
Do not for one moment think that you have been abandoned.
I am in the Light.
In the corner, in the hall, the car, the yard...
these are the places I stay with you.
My spirit rises every time you pray for me,
but my energy comes closer to you.
Love does not diminish, it grows stronger.
I am the feather that finds you in the yard,
the dimmed light that grows brighter in your mind.
I place our memories for you to see.
We lived in our special way, a way that now has it's focus changed.
I still crave your understanding and long for the
many words of prayer and good fortune for my soul.
I am in the Light.
As you struggle to adjust without me, I watch silently.
Sometimes, I summon up all the strength of my new world
to make you notice me.
Impressed by your grief,
I try to impress my love deeper into your consciousness.
As you should, I call out to the Heaven's for help.
You should know that the fountain of youth does exist.
My soul is now healthy.
Your love sends me new found energy.
I am adjusting to this new world.
I am with you and I am in the Light.
Please don't feel bad that you can't see me.
I am with you wherever you go.
Talk to me and somehow I will find a way to answer you.
Mother, Father, son or daughter, it makes no difference.
Brother, sister, lover, husband or wife, it makes no difference.
Whatever our connection - friend or even foe - I see you with my new eyes.
I am learning to help wherever you are,
wherever I am needed.
This can be done because I am in the Light.
When you feel despair, reach out to me.
I will come.
Our love for you truly does transcend from Heaven to Earth.
Finish your life with the enthusiasm and zest that you had
when we were together in the physical sense.
You owe this to me, but more importantly, you owe it to yourself.
Life continues for both of us.
I am with you because I love you and I am in the Light.
(Author Unknown)
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
A special Place
There is a special place
a place so dear to us.
It holds all our memories
that we have kept of you.
This place we visit often
when we need to feel you close.
We hear you tender voice
and see your loving smile.
We know that you are with us
walking by our side.
This place is in our heart
thats where we keep you now.
Untill the day we meet again
and you hold us in your arms.
Love and missed always.
x x x
As I look at the moon
I wish you goodnight
The dearest angel
So special and loved.
You are the one God chose to take
You are the one we could not wake
I know in heaven is now where you sleep.
So please God in heaven
God up above
Please protect this angel
That we love.
I must say good night
I blow to you a kiss
I wish you goodnight
The angel that we miss.
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__________-.OOOOOOOOOOOOO. ♥
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30TH AUGUST 2009
~~~~~ Never Alone ~~~~~~
I feel you in the morning
When at first I awake
Your thought is with me
With each decision I make
You'd been around forever
Since the first breath I took
Now I have to go on alone
But for love, I need not look
Cause by what you bestowed
In our short time together
Will last in my heart
Forever and ever
Although you've left
And now walk above
I'm never alone
I'm wrapped in your love
Enjoy now your long waited reward
Feel peace that your love continues on
What was taught to me, will be taught to mine
Cause you live on in me even after you've gone
by Rodney Belcher.
♥
❁ Heaven and Earth ❁
♥When the warmth of the sun touches my face,
♥I see your smile and feel your embrace.
♥I hear the whisper of love in the wind
♥And I know that you are close to me again.
♥The rain speaks of tears, the thunder of pain,
♥But soon the sun comes the earth to reclaim.
♥As the days come and go and the world moves on,
♥I know you're still here, you'll never be gone.
♥On the night the Angel came and took your hand,
♥We cried as you left for an unknown land.
♥But Heaven rejoiced as you came into sight.
♥For your soul was a diamond, shining so bright!
Written by Karen McCombs
•♥ The Messenger ♥•
Written by Kirsti (Angel scribe)
From an Angel on high
a tender message of love was softly whispered into the ear
of this humble scribe....
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Weep not for me
now that I have passed.
Remember the laughter, the affection, the joy
not just the recent tears.
Cherish the memories, our hopes and dreams.
Hold fast to the love that we shared.
Be happy with the time we spent together
and being anew.
For I am not really gone,
I am closer than ever before.
As the morning sun rises
and throughout the busy day...I am with you.
Until the setting sun disappears on the horizon
and we watch the day turn into night...I am here.
You may feel a faint breeze stir round your head, while you slumber
as I gently kiss your forehead, "Good night."
The stars that shine so brightly in my heavenly sky
help me watch over you and keep you from harm.
I am the wind in the trees
and the song of a bird.
I am moonbeams in a midnight sky
and a glorious rainbow after the storm.
I am morning dew
and freshly-fallen snow.
I am a butterfly flying overhead
and a puppy happily at play.
I am a smile on a stranger's face
a gentle touch
a warm embrace.
Listen to the wind for my message of love.
Watch the sun rise and set in the sky with me.
Feel my essence encircle you with warm memories.
Open your heart to know...I am not gone.
Reach deep into your soul...You will find me.
I am here.
Have no fear.
I am with you,
Always.
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✫ A Special Star So Very Bright ✫
✫ It's Time For Me To Say Goodnight ✫
✫ So Close Your Eyes And Snuggle Tight ✫
✫ I'm Wishing You Sweet Dreams Tonight ✫
♥Softly As We Leave You♥
(Author Unknown)
Life is so uncertain, this we all may know....
No one knows the time or day,
when they'll have to go.
Though now our time has come to leave you
to face this world alone...
These promises we make you,
to give you strength to carry on.
When the sunlight awakens you,
we'll be there too.
When the moon shines on your pillow...
we'll be shining on you.
We'll be in the cooling breeze,
as it rustles through the trees..
we'll be in the pouring rain,
as it hits your window pane.
When darkness dims your vision,
close your eyes and look above
we'll be standing right beside you.
You will always have our love
May peace and comfort be upon you..
hold close our memories
For in our hearts we know that
no matter where you go...
Is where we'll always be.
I am away for a few days break from monday 17th until friday 21st...so i'll light you candles now and send you all my love...see you saturday morning angel xxxxxxxxxx
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR MONDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
*★ * Take Care our beautiful angel *★ * In Heaven Up Above *★ * And Until we See You *★ * We Send Up All our Love *★ *
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR TUESDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
ჱܓIf every tear we shed for you Became a star up above. You'd stroll in Heaven's Garden Lit with ever Lasting Love. ჱܓ
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR WEDNESDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
♥ Watch Over Us From Heaven ♥ And Help Us Through This Pain ♥ We Will Always Love And Miss You ♥ Until We Meet Again ♥
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR THURSDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
⊱✣⊰ Just like the sweetest rose ♥ your petals fell too soon ♥ but the love you planted in our hearts ♥ will never cease to bloom ⊱✣⊰
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ FOR FRIDAY Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ
☀ A beautiful memory dearer than gold of an angel whose worth can never be told. There's a place in our hearts no one can fill we miss you angel and always will ☀
Love Always Elaine xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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