| Location | Thamesmead, Erith |
| Age | 73 years |
| Date of Birth | 14/04/1931 |
| Date of Death | 24/01/2005 |
| Visitors | 6,266 since 05/01/2007 |
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My grandad died on the 24th January 2005 of cancer!
what can i say about my grandad? he was an amazing man, a family man. along with my nan he raised 8
children 5 girls and 3 boys one of which was badly handicapped mentally and physically ( my unk who
i have also done a page for) he was a hard worker while his children were small, always made sure
the family had what they needed and that never stopped until the day he passed. As i got older i saw
my grandad as a person not just a figure and realized how marvolous he really was.. everyone seemed
to look up to him and he had alot of respect for and from ppl. he also loved his jokes.. makes me
smile just to think of him standing in the kitchen with his newspaper, he would tell us all a joke
which wasnt even very funny but he would laugh for ages and get ready to tell the next person who
walked through the door. He was rally easy to get along with no matter what your age, he had friends
of all different ages, male and female and when you spoke to him you would feel as though you had
known him for years. If you ever had a problem no matter how big or small he would always be there
to help you out. Even when i fell pregnant at 16, although i could tell he was so disappointed he
put his arm around me and let me know he was here for me. i looked upon him as a father... not a
grandfather... as did my children. they would often shout out dad as we was out shopping, the looks
we would get from ppl was amusing.
cyprus was a love spot for my grandad he and my nan would go every year.. he made so many friends
that even restruant owners from there would sent a xmas card to him every year.
i could carry on writting all day but no amount of words could explain how amazing he was.
then while on holiday in 2004 he became ill.. coming home early he went to the doctors and was told
he had intigestion.... after this going on for 5-6 months a new doctor sent my grandad for
tests..... CANCER came the result! That word scares alot of ppl... my grandad was one of them. he
became weak so fast but doctors told us they could operate on it and remove it. xmas came and that
was the first time i saw this proud man actully cry as his granddaughter (me) had to drill a hole in
the wall to hang up a santa figure for my uncle as my grandad was too weak to do it! that broke my
heart.
after xmas he started to go down hill fast... he couldnt eat... couldnt drink, we was to worried
that my mother and i went to see his doctor and begged him to do something. he suggested having him
put either in hospital or a hospice where he can be put on drips for fluid and food, because unless
he built himself up he couldnt have the op as he was too weak. we agreed to put him into our local
hospice as there he would get 1 on 1 care whereas a hospial was shared care.
when we told him he asked us not to put him there saying " when you go in those places you never
come out alive" we told him not to be silly and that they was going to help him get better.
after a few days of him being in the hospice he still didnt have any drips up and now struggled to
get out of bed.... we spoke to a doctor who was looking after him... nothing could have prepared me
for what i heard next... that thursday afternoon me and my mum was told there was nothing they could
do for him... my grandad was going to die!! that walk home went by in a haze as me and my mum just
cryed.
we got back to my nans and i had to sit and tell my nan and my aunts that the man in our lifes was
going to die and theres was nothing we could do.
we decided that we wasnt going to let him die in there like he told us he would, but we would bring
him home to be with his family. doctors asked us to wait until the monday before we took him home as
they wanted to get his mdeication on the right dose before he left... we agreed.
sunday evening i spoke to my mum on the phone and told her i was going to get the bus early in the
morning to see my grandad and keep him company till my nan and aunt got up there later in the day to
collect him (as he didnt like to be alone).
monday morning came and my mum called just as i was leaving to take my kids to school and go get the
bus... she told me my nan and aunt was going up early if i wasnt to go with them instead of getting
the bus... after i put my kids into school at 9am i went to my nans instead of getting the bus... my
mum was there as well as 1 of my aunts... we sat waiting for my other aunt to turn up as she was
driving us up there... then at 10:13 the phone rang... my aunt answered and passed the phone to my
nan telling her it was the hospice calling.. we thought they was letting us know that he was ready
to go..... my nan took the phone... seconds later screams filled the room.... my grandad had gone.
words cannot describe how our world fell apart at that moment... not only did he die in a place we
put him in... but he died alone.
i live my life now on if only's... coz if only i had got that bus... i would have been with him when
he went... he wouldnt have been alone.
people say time heels pain.... well on the 24th of this month it will be 2 years that he passed..
and i can say the pain inside is still as raw as that day.... time makes it easier to live with but
the pain never goes away.
heaven has alot to answer for.... so they can have an angel in a million... they took away 1 of
earths greatest heros!!!
♥ 4TH OCTOBER 2009 ♥
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~SUNDAY
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~BLESSINGS
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~ANGEL.
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~YOU'RE
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~ALWAYS
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~IN
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~MY
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~THOUGHTS.
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~GOD
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--’’♥(’’♥’’)~BLESS
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FOREVER LOVED, FOREVER MISSED. X X X
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✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ
•♥ Heaven ♥•
A silver thread that keeps me near
To those I love and hold so dear,
Will someday slip, and I'll swim free.
A soul afloat in a bounteous sea.
I'll also soar in maddening glee,
To places unseen by you and me.
Through darkest night and brightest day,
I'll fly to a far and magical bay.
In ethereal havens of love and peace,
My God-given life will never cease.
The passing of time will be obsolete ...
Travelling the auras, no great feat.
Don't you grieve, notice the sound
Of my songs to you with love abound.
I'll never leave you, don't you see?
I'll live with you, eternally!
(Carol Patterson Shott)
✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ✽ܓ
2ND OCTOBER 2009
♥
Wishing You A Good Afternoon And Thinking of You with Love.....
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♥ Just a thought of sweet remembrance, ♥ Just a memory sad and true, ♥ Just the love and sweet devotion, ♥ Of the ones who think of you. x x x ♥
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OH SWEETHEART...........
IT'S A DOGS' LIFE WITHOUT YOU......
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LOVE ,JUDE. X
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TO A VERY SPECIAL ANGEL WITH LOVE XX
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DONT CRY FOR ME
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Dont cry for me
i am always hear,
I'm right beside you
i am very near.
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Dont cry for me
for i am happy here,
There is no hate
no hurt and no fear.
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Dont cry for me
for i would never leave,
Just think of me
and just believe.
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Dont cry for me
just live your life,
I'll help you always
through troubles and strife.
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Dont cry for me
just look back and say,
We loved and laughed
and then i went on my way
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Dont cry for me
for i have'nt gone,
I'm right in your heart
and life will go on.
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
Written by Margaret Pilkington
~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~ ~♥x♥~
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ღ♥ღ Till Healing Comes ღ♥ღ
My heart is closing deep inside
from all the pain I feel;
while others are so full of joy
my hurt feels very real.
I want to find a bit of light
but part of me feels dead,
and though I see the joy around
my soul is sad instead.
It's hard to enter deeply in
when you're no longer here.
It's like the lights have all gone out
and won't be lighting up this year.
And so this year I must be
just how it is I am.
So that soon my heart can heal
I'll do the best I can.
The only thing that I can do
is to stay present in the now,
to feel my grieving pain
and trust I'll heal somehow.
As this year gently comes
and as my heart is torn in two.
I'll open just a little bit
as I'm deeply missing you.
I'll trust the gift of life that's here
and trust that I'm ok,
and be with how it is right now...
..till healing comes my way.
ღ♥ღ (by Bev Swanson) ღ♥ღ
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27TH SEPTEMBER 2009
GOOD MORNING .............
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╚═╩═╩═╩═╝╚╝╚═╩═╝ *♥*
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(______)_____) SENDING SUNDAY
BLESSINGS,
WITH LOVE, JUDE. X
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♥═══♥ HOMEWARD BOUND ♥═══♥
The Lord woke up this morning with so much work to do
so many plans He has to make before the day is through.
He gathers all his angels. They stand close by his side
as each receive their saintly chores they spread their wings and fly.
The Lord looked up and realized his angels all were gone.
With so much work still left to do, He'd hire a new one on.
A million applications now lie upon his desk.
He reads each one so carefully until he finds the best.
Someone with all the qualities it takes to keep their faith.
Someone who seemed to always have a smile upon their face.
Someone who always tried to give a hand to those in need.
Unselfish love was all he knew, no room was left for greed.
And now the Lord has made his choice. He'll come for him today.
With wings that God alone can give, He smiles and flies away.
A single, fallen feather lies softly on the ground.
A sign sent down from heaven, Angel wings are homeward bound.
(Author Unknown)
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A gap in the curtain
let in the light
as I lay on my pillow
sleeping last night
I opened my eyes
the light was so bright
I was sure that I heard you
whisper night night
A little white feather
tickled my nose
Where did it come from
do you suppose
Had you been to visit
to whisper night night
And left the white feather
I think that you might
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