| Location | Thamesmead, Erith |
| Age | 73 years |
| Date of Birth | 14/04/1931 |
| Date of Death | 24/01/2005 |
| Visitors | 6,266 since 05/01/2007 |
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My grandad died on the 24th January 2005 of cancer!
what can i say about my grandad? he was an amazing man, a family man. along with my nan he raised 8
children 5 girls and 3 boys one of which was badly handicapped mentally and physically ( my unk who
i have also done a page for) he was a hard worker while his children were small, always made sure
the family had what they needed and that never stopped until the day he passed. As i got older i saw
my grandad as a person not just a figure and realized how marvolous he really was.. everyone seemed
to look up to him and he had alot of respect for and from ppl. he also loved his jokes.. makes me
smile just to think of him standing in the kitchen with his newspaper, he would tell us all a joke
which wasnt even very funny but he would laugh for ages and get ready to tell the next person who
walked through the door. He was rally easy to get along with no matter what your age, he had friends
of all different ages, male and female and when you spoke to him you would feel as though you had
known him for years. If you ever had a problem no matter how big or small he would always be there
to help you out. Even when i fell pregnant at 16, although i could tell he was so disappointed he
put his arm around me and let me know he was here for me. i looked upon him as a father... not a
grandfather... as did my children. they would often shout out dad as we was out shopping, the looks
we would get from ppl was amusing.
cyprus was a love spot for my grandad he and my nan would go every year.. he made so many friends
that even restruant owners from there would sent a xmas card to him every year.
i could carry on writting all day but no amount of words could explain how amazing he was.
then while on holiday in 2004 he became ill.. coming home early he went to the doctors and was told
he had intigestion.... after this going on for 5-6 months a new doctor sent my grandad for
tests..... CANCER came the result! That word scares alot of ppl... my grandad was one of them. he
became weak so fast but doctors told us they could operate on it and remove it. xmas came and that
was the first time i saw this proud man actully cry as his granddaughter (me) had to drill a hole in
the wall to hang up a santa figure for my uncle as my grandad was too weak to do it! that broke my
heart.
after xmas he started to go down hill fast... he couldnt eat... couldnt drink, we was to worried
that my mother and i went to see his doctor and begged him to do something. he suggested having him
put either in hospital or a hospice where he can be put on drips for fluid and food, because unless
he built himself up he couldnt have the op as he was too weak. we agreed to put him into our local
hospice as there he would get 1 on 1 care whereas a hospial was shared care.
when we told him he asked us not to put him there saying " when you go in those places you never
come out alive" we told him not to be silly and that they was going to help him get better.
after a few days of him being in the hospice he still didnt have any drips up and now struggled to
get out of bed.... we spoke to a doctor who was looking after him... nothing could have prepared me
for what i heard next... that thursday afternoon me and my mum was told there was nothing they could
do for him... my grandad was going to die!! that walk home went by in a haze as me and my mum just
cryed.
we got back to my nans and i had to sit and tell my nan and my aunts that the man in our lifes was
going to die and theres was nothing we could do.
we decided that we wasnt going to let him die in there like he told us he would, but we would bring
him home to be with his family. doctors asked us to wait until the monday before we took him home as
they wanted to get his mdeication on the right dose before he left... we agreed.
sunday evening i spoke to my mum on the phone and told her i was going to get the bus early in the
morning to see my grandad and keep him company till my nan and aunt got up there later in the day to
collect him (as he didnt like to be alone).
monday morning came and my mum called just as i was leaving to take my kids to school and go get the
bus... she told me my nan and aunt was going up early if i wasnt to go with them instead of getting
the bus... after i put my kids into school at 9am i went to my nans instead of getting the bus... my
mum was there as well as 1 of my aunts... we sat waiting for my other aunt to turn up as she was
driving us up there... then at 10:13 the phone rang... my aunt answered and passed the phone to my
nan telling her it was the hospice calling.. we thought they was letting us know that he was ready
to go..... my nan took the phone... seconds later screams filled the room.... my grandad had gone.
words cannot describe how our world fell apart at that moment... not only did he die in a place we
put him in... but he died alone.
i live my life now on if only's... coz if only i had got that bus... i would have been with him when
he went... he wouldnt have been alone.
people say time heels pain.... well on the 24th of this month it will be 2 years that he passed..
and i can say the pain inside is still as raw as that day.... time makes it easier to live with but
the pain never goes away.
heaven has alot to answer for.... so they can have an angel in a million... they took away 1 of
earths greatest heros!!!
ROSES GROW IN HEAVEN
If Roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me
Place them in my Loved ones arms
And tell them they're from me
Tell them I love and miss them
And when they turn to smile
Place a kiss upon their cheeks
And hold them for awhile
Because remembering them is easy,
I do it every day
But there's an ache within my heart
Because I am missing them today...
If Roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me
Place them in my Loved ones arms
And tell them they're from me
Tell them I love and miss them
And when they turn to smile
Place a kiss upon their cheeks
And hold them for awhile
Because remembering them is easy,
I do it every day
But there's an ache within my heart
Because I am missing them today...
♥ I Believe ♥
(Written By Skip Ewing and Donny Keyes Copyright 2002)
(Song performed by Diamond Rio)
Every now and then
Soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again
And it's like you haven't been gone
A moment from my side
Like the tears were never cried
Like the hands of time are holding you and me
And with all my heart I'm sure
We're closer than we ever were
I don't have to hear or see
I've got all the proof I need
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, I believe
That when you die your life goes on
It doesn't end here when you're gone
Every soul is filled with light
It never ends and if I'm right
Our love can even reach across eternity
I believe, I believe
Forever you're a part of me
Forever in the heart of me
I will hold you even longer if I can
The people who don't see the most
Say that I believe in ghosts
And if that makes me crazy
Then I am
'Cause I believe, oh I believe
There are more than angels watching over me
I believe, oh I believe
Every now and then
Soft as breath upon my skin
I feel you come back again
And I believe
'Cause I believe, oh I believe.
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☼ The Sea and the Beach ☼
(Tessa Wilkinson)
The sea seems to illustrate pain and sorrow so well
It comes in and goes out
For a while it is there, overwhelming, covering everything
Then slowly the tide turns and it withdraws
For a while we can see the beauty of the shells, the seaweed
We can rejoice in the patterns in the sand
We can feel the corrugated ripples under our feet
Alive to what is around, and beyond
But then the tide turns and again it is all washed away, all overwhelmed
We feel like the crashing of the waves on rocks
Raw and out of control
Full of anger and rage
Battered and bruised
Tossed about like flotsam floating wherever we are thrown
There are so many questions. Why now? Why him?
But no answers
Then the sea calms and gently the waves lap the rocks
We are soothed and the inner turmoil is calmed
In time we can learn to move up the beach as the tide comes in
Out of its reach
Not to be overwhelmed
The pain is still there, but in control
We can recognise the pain
Revisiting the sadness
Acknowledging how much the person is missed
We learn to turn away and look to the future
Knowing the person will always be part of us
Always loved and always remembered
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14th October 2009
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~~ The Angels ~~
May angels rest beside your door
May you hear their voices sing
May you feel their loving care for you
May you hear their peace bells ring
May angels always care for you
And not let you trip and fall
May they bear you up on angels wings
May they keep you standing tall
May they whisper wisdom in your ear
May they touch you when you need
May they remove you from each trace of fear
May they keep you from feeling greed
May they fill you with their presence
May they show you love untold
May they always stand beside you
And make you ever bold
May they teach you what you want to know
About life here and here-after
May they fill you always with their love
And give you the gift of laughter
~xXx~ ~xXx~ ~xXx~ ~xXx~ ~xXx~
~~ Angel In My Pocket ~~
I am a tiny angel
I'm smaller than your thumb
I live in peoples pockets
That's where I have my fun
I don't suppose you've seen me
I'm too tiny to detect
Though i'm with you all the time
I doubt we've ever met
Before I was an angel...
I was a fairy in a flower
God himself hand picked me
And gave me angel power
Now god has many angels
That he trains in angel pools
We become his eyes and ears and hands
We become his special tools
And because god is so busy
With way too much to do
He said that my assignment
Is to keep close watch on you
When he tucked me in your pocket
He blessed you with angel care
Then told me to never leave you
And I vowed always to be there
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~~ Guardian Angels ~~
When angels sense you need them
and angels always do.....
they come unseen from everywhere
to help and comfort you
they hover close beside you
till all your cares are gone
till they can see you're ready
once again to carry on
Then some of them may fly away
and take their gentle touch
to other hearts that need
the love of angels very much
but one at least stays with you
as your constant friend and guide
for guardian angels never leave
they're always at your side
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Lots Of Love Always ~~ Elaine...x♥x
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~ Immeasurable (by Sean Ashcroft) ~
Laughter will still sound,
even though you’re gone.
But the decibels will dip,
with some smiles, painted on.
Hopes will still soar,
dreams float on high.
But the altitude will drop,
as will the supply.
Passion will still drive us,
desire wave us off.
But the revs will decline
and the engine might cough.
Time will be bejewelled,
lives lit by waltzing light.
But the carats will diminish,
its brilliance a lesser sight.
Yet memories have no volume,
love no mass nor weight.
These will broaden, widen, deepen,
a true measure of something great.
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*****SENDING ALL MY LOVE TO YOU IN HEAVEN*****
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~ Life Beyond ~
Let them go, but not completely.
Hold on to them, but not too tightly.
Love them as you know you will,
as you always have.
Rejoice that they are well, the only difference
now is that you cannot see them,
But you feel them still and they will always be with you.
The spirit does not die as the body dies
and Love is of the spirit.
Nothing you have experienced together can be taken from you.
And your loved one shall be eternally yours in that love.
Weep not too long, that they may also cry,
But rejoice in their life and in yours also.
Let yours continue to be a celebration of all life; of your shared love,
Knowing that God holds you both in the palm of his hand
And in loving you both shall reunite you.
Author Unknown
7TH OCTOBER 2009
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6TH OCTOBER 2009
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