| Location | Thamesmead, Erith |
| Age | 73 years |
| Date of Birth | 14/04/1931 |
| Date of Death | 24/01/2005 |
| Visitors | 9,033 since 05/01/2007 |
| Creator |
My grandad died on the 24th January 2005 of cancer!
what can i say about my grandad? he was an amazing man, a family man. along with my nan he raised 8 children 5 girls and 3 boys one of which was badly handicapped mentally and physically ( my unk who i have also done a page for) he was a hard worker while his children were small, always made sure the family had what they needed and that never stopped until the day he passed. As i got older i saw my grandad as a person not just a figure and realized how marvolous he really was.. everyone seemed to look up to him and he had alot of respect for and from ppl. he also loved his jokes.. makes me smile just to think of him standing in the kitchen with his newspaper, he would tell us all a joke which wasnt even very funny but he would laugh for ages and get ready to tell the next person who walked through the door. He was rally easy to get along with no matter what your age, he had friends of all different ages, male and female and when you spoke to him you would feel as though you had known him for years. If you ever had a problem no matter how big or small he would always be there to help you out. Even when i fell pregnant at 16, although i could tell he was so disappointed he put his arm around me and let me know he was here for me. i looked upon him as a father... not a grandfather... as did my children. they would often shout out dad as we was out shopping, the looks we would get from ppl was amusing.
cyprus was a love spot for my grandad he and my nan would go every year.. he made so many friends that even restruant owners from there would sent a xmas card to him every year.
i could carry on writting all day but no amount of words could explain how amazing he was.
then while on holiday in 2004 he became ill.. coming home early he went to the doctors and was told he had intigestion.... after this going on for 5-6 months a new doctor sent my grandad for tests..... CANCER came the result! That word scares alot of ppl... my grandad was one of them. he became weak so fast but doctors told us they could operate on it and remove it. xmas came and that was the first time i saw this proud man actully cry as his granddaughter (me) had to drill a hole in the wall to hang up a santa figure for my uncle as my grandad was too weak to do it! that broke my heart.
after xmas he started to go down hill fast... he couldnt eat... couldnt drink, we was to worried that my mother and i went to see his doctor and begged him to do something. he suggested having him put either in hospital or a hospice where he can be put on drips for fluid and food, because unless he built himself up he couldnt have the op as he was too weak. we agreed to put him into our local hospice as there he would get 1 on 1 care whereas a hospial was shared care.
when we told him he asked us not to put him there saying " when you go in those places you never come out alive" we told him not to be silly and that they was going to help him get better.
after a few days of him being in the hospice he still didnt have any drips up and now struggled to get out of bed.... we spoke to a doctor who was looking after him... nothing could have prepared me for what i heard next... that thursday afternoon me and my mum was told there was nothing they could do for him... my grandad was going to die!! that walk home went by in a haze as me and my mum just cryed.
we got back to my nans and i had to sit and tell my nan and my aunts that the man in our lifes was going to die and theres was nothing we could do.
we decided that we wasnt going to let him die in there like he told us he would, but we would bring him home to be with his family. doctors asked us to wait until the monday before we took him home as they wanted to get his mdeication on the right dose before he left... we agreed.
sunday evening i spoke to my mum on the phone and told her i was going to get the bus early in the morning to see my grandad and keep him company till my nan and aunt got up there later in the day to collect him (as he didnt like to be alone).
monday morning came and my mum called just as i was leaving to take my kids to school and go get the bus... she told me my nan and aunt was going up early if i wasnt to go with them instead of getting the bus... after i put my kids into school at 9am i went to my nans instead of getting the bus... my mum was there as well as 1 of my aunts... we sat waiting for my other aunt to turn up as she was driving us up there... then at 10:13 the phone rang... my aunt answered and passed the phone to my nan telling her it was the hospice calling.. we thought they was letting us know that he was ready to go..... my nan took the phone... seconds later screams filled the room.... my grandad had gone.
words cannot describe how our world fell apart at that moment... not only did he die in a place we put him in... but he died alone.
i live my life now on if only's... coz if only i had got that bus... i would have been with him when he went... he wouldnt have been alone.
people say time heels pain.... well on the 24th of this month it will be 2 years that he passed.. and i can say the pain inside is still as raw as that day.... time makes it easier to live with but the pain never goes away.
heaven has alot to answer for.... so they can have an angel in a million... they took away 1 of earths greatest heros!!!
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Love everlasting is etched in the sands of time.
~ Sandra S. Corona
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being to timelessness as it's to time ღ♥ღ
being to timelessness as it's to time,
love did no more begin than love will end:
where nothing is to breathe to stroll to swim
love is the air the ocean and the land
❦
love is the voice under all silences,
the hope which has no opposite in fear:
the strength so strong mere force is feebleness:
the truth more first than sun, more last than star.
~ ee cummings
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dad i cant belive it seven years today since i last saw you missing you so much dad....sorry im late on here but as you know bray isnt well been at hospital all eveing miss you dad sleep tight xxxxxxxxxx
For Raymond. xxx
♥ REMEMBERING YOU ON YOUR ANGEL DAY ♥
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♥ I Miss You ♥
Another year without you
Tears flow – within this broken heart of mine
I am never complete
A shadow of my former self
You went to the Garden of Paradise this day, that year
I should be happy for you, but I wish you were here so much
And all I can do is cry.
♥ Written by Melanie Doe 10/09/10 ♥
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And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth,
"You owe me."
Look what happens with love like that.
It lights up the sky. ♥ڿڰۣಌ
~ Hafiz
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Love is not something that comes from another.
It is a state of being that comes from within.
The Love that is inside of you is without conditions or expectations.
It is not limited or restricted by time and space in any way.
Unlike physical Love this Love will never diminish or fade with time.
It is eternal and will not ever let you down.
I promise you that it will always be there to let the Light in
and guide you safely Home.
Love connects each of us to one another
and is the underlying energy behind all things.
Love literally is everything. ♥ڿڰۣಌ
~ Paul Adkins
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ჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓ
ღ LIFE is a series of little deaths out of which life always returns.
…~ Charles Feidelson, Jr.
ღ LOVE is the vital core of the soul, and of all you see, only love is infinite.
…~ Rumi
♥ ═ೋღ♥ ═ೋღ♥
ღ A Farewell ღ
FAREWELL, oh dream of mine!
I dare not stay;
The hour is come, and time
Will not delay:
Pleasant and dear to me
Wilt thou remain;
No future hour
Brings thee again.
❦
She stands, the Future dim,
And draws me on,
And shows me dearer joys—
But thou art gone!
Treasures and Hopes more fair,
Bears she for me,
And yet I linger,
Oh dream, with thee!
❦
Other and brighter days,
Perhaps she brings;
Deeper and holier songs,
Perchance she sings;
But thou and I, fair time,
We too must sever—
Oh dream of mine,
Farewell for ever!
~ Adelaide Anne Procter
ჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓჱܓ
︽☆︽ ︽♥︽ ︽☆︽ ︽♥︽ ︽☆︽︽☆︽ ︽♥︽ ︽☆︽ ︽♥︽
✽ Sunrise Never Failed Us Yet ✽
Upon the sadness of the sea
The sunset broods regretfully;
From the far lonely spaces, slow
Withdraws the wistful after-glow.
*ღ*
So out of life the splendor dies,
So darken all the happy skies,
So gathers twilight, cold and stern;
But overhead the planets burn;
*ღ*
And up the east another day
Shall chase the bitter dark away;
What though our eyes with tears be wet?
The sunrise never failed us yet.
*ღ*
The blush of dawn may yet restore
Our light and hope and joys once more.
Sad soul, take comfort, nor forget
That sunrise never failed us yet!
✽ Celia Thaxter ✽
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✽ Stars In My Crown ✽
I am thinking today of that beautiful land
I shall reach when the sun goes down
When through wonderful grace by my Saviour I stand
Will there be any stars in my crown?
✰...✰
Will there be any stars in my crown
When at evening the sun goes down
When I wake with the blest in the mansions of rest
Will there be any stars in my crown?
✰...✰
In the strength of the Lord let me labour and pray,
Shall I watch as a winner of souls
That bright stars may be mine in the glorious day
When His praise like the sea billow rolls?
✰...✰
Will there be any stars in my crown
When at evening the sun goes down
When I wake with the blest in the mansions of rest
Will there be any stars in my crown?
✰...✰
O what joy will there be when His face I behold
And with gems at his feet to lay down
It would sweeten my bliss in the City of Gold
Should there be any stars in my crown.
✰...✰
Will there be any stars in my crown
When at evening the sun goes down
When I wake with the blest in the mansions of rest
Will there be any stars in my crown?…
✽ Hymn by Eliza E. Hewitt, tune by John R. Sweney ✽
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-۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰-
An old monk was once asked why he cared for ancient graves,
and why he cleaned the stones to preserve the writing carved there.
His reply was simple: “They still have their names. They will
always have their names.”
A life infused with love has consequences that reach beyond time
— ensuring that names, and places, and memories of what was,
still are, and always will be. They are not dead, can never die.
~ Gregory & Suzanne Wolfe
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-۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰----۰̮̑●̮̑۰-
~ Remembering you always, forgetting you never ~ xxx
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~ SIC VITA ~
Like to the falling of a star,
Or as the flights of eagles are,
Or like the fresh spring’s gaudy hue,
Or silver drops of morning dew,
Or like a wind that chafes the flood,
Or bubbles which on water stood:
Even such is man, whose borrowed light
Is straight called in, and paid to night.
The wind blows out, the bubble dies,
The spring entombed in autumn lies,
The dew dries up, the star is shot,
The flight is past, and man forgot.
~ Henry King (1592-1669)
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